If you have goals in life and they’re not being achieved, it could be because you’re unknowingly allowing other people to take your shine away.
You’re full of courage and determination and have goals you want to achieve. So be you and don’t let anyone steal your shine.
Doing this is sometimes more difficult than it sounds.
After all, you don’t want to step on any toes, do you? Well, the good news is you don’t have to run all over people just to get the things you want out of life.
But regardless of your situation or even your attitude, you deserve to have the life you want. We all get just one shot at life, so what’s wrong with going after what we want?
Plus, you can do this without being unpleasant to anyone, and below are a few ways to do so.
1. Stop Worrying So Much
People don’t have any idea how much time worrying takes away from their lives.
The bottom line is the vast majority of things people worry about never end up happening. Makes you think, doesn’t it?
Therefore, when you find yourself worrying, stop yourself.
Instead, start thinking about something positive. And the more you do this, the closer you’ll get to not worrying at all.
Because the truth is, worry is a thief. It steals your time and your energy, which could both be better used doing more productive things.
2. Don’t Argue With People
Today’s world is often a divided one.
But that doesn’t mean you always have to argue with people when you don’t agree with them about something.
Arguing with someone is a stress-inducer, and in most cases, it’s pointless.
Why is it pointless?
Because more often than not, neither person is going to change the other one’s mind. Since this is the case, why waste your time arguing?
Instead, just say something like, “we can agree to disagree,” then move on to something else.
Or, you can make them think you agree with them and change the subject.
But don’t let anyone steal your shine.
3. Learn to Understand Other People Better
Understanding people can be difficult.
This is especially true if you come into contact with people who are very different from you. But, the thing is, understanding that person better can help.
Does this mean if you try, you can and will understand everything about that person? No… not usually.
But if you’re not anxious to get your point heard and you give the other person the opportunity to talk, you can learn a lot about them.
In fact, it’s entirely possible you might learn something about them you didn’t know before that interaction happened. Once again, it might not lead to you getting along with everyone.
But it will help you keep the peace because you’ll understand them better.
4. Make It Not Your Circus
Have you ever heard the saying, not my circus, not my monkeys?
If not, this is a great way to live your life. If someone else is doing something you don’t agree with, so what?
Just don’t get involved and the problem is solved.
While it’s human nature to be bothered by things other people are doing that you don’t like, learning to let go is a beautiful thing.
It can take a tremendous amount of stress out of your life. Because those things you’re letting go of are simply none of your business.
This is especially true if the things they’re doing DON’T affect you personally. People love to be in other people’s business.
But this is not a smart way to live your life. So mind your business and don’t let anyone steal your shine.
5. Don’t Let The Negative Words of Others Hurt Your Feelings
People are always going to say things that are hurtful.
They wanna see how it’s going to affect you. But that doesn’t mean you can always ignore those words and go on with your life.
Even though we grew up hearing “words can’t hurt you,” the fact is that they sometimes do hurt.
But the thing is, you don’t have to let the hurt linger. Don’t get angry at the person who spouted out the words.
Accept the hurt.
And then push it out of the way so you can concentrate on positive things. Because when other people’s words bother you, you give them more power than they deserve.
Don’t let that happen.
6. Put Yourself First
This one goes against what your mother taught you, but so be it. You are THE most important person in your life.
So, don’t let anyone steal your shine.
This doesn’t mean you should be selfish and not care about other people’s feelings. It just means you have a right to come first in your life.
The truth is, you can’t possibly achieve your life goals if you constantly put yourself second… or third. You get the picture.
Part of this is learning to say “no” to people when you cannot accommodate them – and then not feeling guilty about it!
But in most situations, guilt is a wasted emotion.
Therefore, when you mess up, learn from it and move on. But whatever you do, don’t consider other people’s goals to be more important than your own.
Because before you can take care of others, you have to first take care of yourself.
7. Speak Up For Yourself
This is something that’s difficult for a lot of people.
Especially women, but it’s an important skill to learn. And women have so much to offer the world.
Not speaking up for yourself usually results in not getting what you want.
Or worse – being dragged into something you specifically didn’t want. You don’t have to be obnoxious or rude when you speak up for yourself.
But, remember, you have as much right to be heard as anyone else does. And this is a good thing to keep in mind when speaking up for yourself.
8. Decide to Be a Positive Influence in The World
In life, you have choices.
You can be a positive influence or you can be a negative one. But both of these are conscious decisions you make. You are in control.
If you decide to be a positive influence in the world and not a negative one, you’ll get a lot more out of life than you ever thought possible.
Not only will you make other people’s lives much better, but you’ll also enhance your own.
This alone will make you shine brighter than most people ever do.
Be you and don’t let anyone steal your shine or allow others to take away from your happiness.
Someone will always have a smart comment or something to add.
Let people talk and say what they want.
Yes, everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. But you CHOOSE how you react and whether it affects you or not.
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